More and more these days people are become passive-aggressive. Passive-aggressive people tend to avoid anything that seems somewhat close to a confrontation, yet explode when they’re cornered. That’s where the term “passive-aggressive” comes from. Too many people these days are afraid to simply say “no” when they’re not interested in something because they fear what consequences may […]
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Why is Communication so Hard?
The point of communication is getting your point across to the other person and have it interpreted the way you mean it. If the person misinterpreted your words or gestures, then you’ve failed at communicating with them effectively. Our modern language is outdated and almost everything is subject to interpretation. The fact that sarcasm exists […]
Good Fats vs Bad Fats
Let’s face it, the game of life is money and everyone wants to make a buck. Whether it’s by selling you snake oil or a gallon of bullshi’t vegetable oil. Everyone wants to defend their products because it’s how they make a living. No wonder there is so much misleading information out there. With that […]
How Being Sick Taught me a Valuable Lesson
Where Does a Positive Mental Attitude Come From?
I’ll tell you where it doesn’t come from; within. There are a lot of wonderful quotes and beautiful haiku’s out there about having a positive mental attitude. The problem is that most people feel good when they hear these quotes, feel inspired and believe them as truth. At the end of the day, consistency is […]
Why Projection is a Big Mistake
Everyone projects, it’s almost as reflexive as blinking. This is a habit people develop early on in life. When it comes to simple things like the rules of the road, it’s fine. The problem with projection is when people predict situations or scenarios that have too much going on. Like assuming someone has foul or […]
Sharpen the Saw – Learn to Stay on Top
“Sharpen the Saw means preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have–you. It means having a balanced program for self-renewal in the four areas of your life: physical, social/emotional, mental, and spiritual. – Stephen Covey The idea to sharpen the saw or blade comes from the analogy that a blade that is consistently sharpened will never get […]
Learning to Let go of Closure
I’m not interested in closure. Some people just have heart attacks and die, right? There’s no closure. -Larry David Sometimes things happen and that’s all there is to it. You can’t make everyone happy and reading into a situation too much is usually a waste of time. Learning to let go of closure is probably […]
The Association System
How people come to conclusions and develop habits of change is based on an association system. It’s simple. You touch fire, it hurts so you never touch it again. Fire is associated with pain. This is a simple example so it’s easy to relate to. What happens when it gets more complicated? Key Points People […]
Paying Your Dues to Reach Your Goals
Goals have a learning curve, believe it or not. Think about it this way. At one point or another, everyone has had a bill to pay. There’s usually no way around paying what’s “due”. Goals and habits work the same way. Key points Paying your dues means experience Practice = Experience There is no way […]