Concentration is the ROOT of all the higher abilities in man. Bruce Lee How to improve in any aspect in life requires the proper tools. What I mean by tools is the proper mind set to a given demand. Whether it’s learning how to swim or play basketball. Sometimes you may already be great at […]
Change
Impractical Morals Fade
What we call “morals” is simply blind obedience to words of command. Havelock Ellis Values fade away if there isn’t environmental reinforcement. The best example I can use is stealing. Most people would say “stealing” is wrong, but what if someone is near death and steals food in order to survive? Morals are only walls that […]
The Tools of Change
People have a hard time changing undesirable behaviors, even if they are aware of it. They still repeat this behavior. What’s the problem? They don’t have the tools of change required to handle that problem. Key Points Conscious awareness of a bad habit doesn’t means it’s going away anytime soon Each bad habit or behavior […]
How to Teach
Being a good teacher doesn’t mean being an expert in the subject you’re teaching. It simply means being able to to help someone make remarkable progress and understanding in the subject being taught. Learning how to teach is a skill in itself. Key Points Not everyone is the same. Treat every student differently Let them […]
The Association System
How people come to conclusions and develop habits of change is based on an association system. It’s simple. You touch fire, it hurts so you never touch it again. Fire is associated with pain. This is a simple example so it’s easy to relate to. What happens when it gets more complicated? Key Points People […]
The Momentum of Change
Have you ever found yourself VERY productive at whatever you’re doing that you just hate for anyone to interrupt you. Okay, have you ever felt like you’ve wasted your time watching TV or playing video games when you know you should be doing something important? The trick here is to gain momentum in your activity. […]
The Value bias Habit
Habits are formed without us even noticing. Most people have a tendency to be more accepting of things that confirm their perspective or beliefs. They also tend to flat out reject of things that contradict them. You have to do your best to set aside that pesky bias habit, look at the evidence critically and […]
Respect & Class Through Habit
Unfortunately, respect in our society is associated with empty social status and based on nothing more than premature judgment of class. The categorization of class in itself is counter productive. Key Points Habits take consistency. Stay at it to adapt to it If you want respect from someone, learn to genuinely give it first Lack of respect is […]
Paying Your Dues to Reach Your Goals
Goals have a learning curve, believe it or not. Think about it this way. At one point or another, everyone has had a bill to pay. There’s usually no way around paying what’s “due”. Goals and habits work the same way. Key points Paying your dues means experience Practice = Experience There is no way […]
A Habit to Understanding Each Other
Trying to “help” someone before you really understand them is like trying to answer a question you haven’t even heard yet. It doesn’t make sense, does it? Key Points Do A LOT more listening than talking If something sounds ambiguous, ask what they mean until you know 100% Understanding them is good enough. NEVER assume you […]