How people come to conclusions and develop habits of change is based on an association system. It’s simple. You touch fire, it hurts so you never touch it again. Fire is associated with pain. This is a simple example so it’s easy to relate to. What happens when it gets more complicated? Key Points People […]
Habits & Lifestyle Hacks
The Momentum of Change
Have you ever found yourself VERY productive at whatever you’re doing that you just hate for anyone to interrupt you. Okay, have you ever felt like you’ve wasted your time watching TV or playing video games when you know you should be doing something important? The trick here is to gain momentum in your activity. […]
The Value bias Habit
Habits are formed without us even noticing. Most people have a tendency to be more accepting of things that confirm their perspective or beliefs. They also tend to flat out reject of things that contradict them. You have to do your best to set aside that pesky bias habit, look at the evidence critically and […]
Respect & Class Through Habit
Unfortunately, respect in our society is associated with empty social status and based on nothing more than premature judgment of class. The categorization of class in itself is counter productive. Key Points Habits take consistency. Stay at it to adapt to it If you want respect from someone, learn to genuinely give it first Lack of respect is […]
Paying Your Dues to Reach Your Goals
Goals have a learning curve, believe it or not. Think about it this way. At one point or another, everyone has had a bill to pay. There’s usually no way around paying what’s “due”. Goals and habits work the same way. Key points Paying your dues means experience Practice = Experience There is no way […]
A Habit to Understanding Each Other
Trying to “help” someone before you really understand them is like trying to answer a question you haven’t even heard yet. It doesn’t make sense, does it? Key Points Do A LOT more listening than talking If something sounds ambiguous, ask what they mean until you know 100% Understanding them is good enough. NEVER assume you […]
How to Change Someone
Listen now, Understand Later…….. Key points You can’t change anyone Only give advice if asked Just because someone listens doesn’t mean they understand Sometimes we think we understand, but it’s impossible to fully understand Less judgement and more respect goes a long way Change by example Change of Heart There are many times where we […]
STOP GUESSING! A Habit to Never Making a Mistake Again
“The only source of knowledge is experience “ – Albert Einstein Let’s talk about a very popular habit that people usually acquire easily and at a young age. It’s all around us and we hardly notice, but it comes back to bite us in ways we wouldn’t expect. It’s guessing. Guessing you say? Well, let […]
The Only Thing to Fear is FEAR
“Always do what you are afraid to do.” Ralph Waldo Emerson I would like to talk about fear again. We are all afraid to get hurt, physically and emotionally. Most fear isn’t logical, just the feeling of not knowing the outcome of something or confusion can cause a very uncomfortable feeling. Feeling is dominant over […]
Can’t is the Cancer of Happen
“Can’t is the cancer of happen” – Charlie Sheen I’m going to go back and retrace the roots of my blog and talk a little bit more about discipline. Last time I discussed some simple ways to make the world around you better. Making environmental changes such as selling a game that takes up too much […]