Most people feel like having kids is the way to go, but often times they don’t know if parenthood is cut out for them. In our society, having kids is like flexing your status level. Okay, so you have your girlfriend, now you have a house, now you get a car, your girlfriend moves in, you get a great job, get married and now you have kids. Even when people are married, everyone starts asking “when are the kids coming?!” like they’re suppose to have kids.
Having kids is part of our value system in the USA. It’s the same case in most places around the world. It’s highly regarded. The problem is a lot of people feel like they should have children because they think they’re suppose to. Almost the same way people take out loans and go to college. People feel like having children is the next stepping stone in their lives. They hold it as a goal.
On TV, they always show cute babies laughing and playing with their, puffy little cheeks. They never show a child crying, shitting all over the place and throwing up. The never show the parents struggle with time and money. The only time they do show the dark side of children is in a comical setting, making fun of it. There are serious investments and commitments that parents have to take when it comes to children.
Some people don’t want children after they realize that they have to give up their own lives and serve their child. Some people don’t give up that freedom lightly. There are many Casey Anthony’s out there who would rather kill their child than give up their current lifestyle. I’m not saying it’s okay to do that or that Casey Anthony actually did it, but I will say I can understand where they’re coming from. These people honestly thought having kids was going to be whatever, but quickly discovered that it was a lot tougher than they thought.
The best way to prevent future problems is to educate people and be honest about what parenting requires and what children need. People need to realize there is no shame in not having kids. The shame is when people are encouraged to have kids and then neglect them with the kids are born.