Yes they do. When it comes to anything, not just women, but let’s keep it strictly about romance here. Before I start bashing the nice guy, I have to explain what a nice guy really is. The “nice guy” is the guy that tells the woman everything she wants to hear and gives her (or at least tries) to giver her everything that she wants. Nice guys are usually passive and uncomfortable displaying their sexuality. While nice guys finish last, it doesn’t necessarily mean that abusive assholes or neglectful jackass. By no means take it the wrong way. You can still be a kind, sensitive, giving person your entire life. Just don’t pretend that you’re not a sex-fiend. No one like a spineless bastard. If you come off like the friendly guy from Sesame Street, you’re going to be treated like the friendly guy from Sesame Street. Nice guys finish last because all their interactions with girls reflect weakness and “neediness”. Have your own opinions and don’t be boring dammit!
- Nice guys are usually passive and very catering to the woman
- Women want to be desired, but not worshiped and catered to
- Nice guys feel it’s inappropriate to be sexual around women
- Women are more attracted to assertive men because they love feeling “protected”
- Nice guys finish last because the display “needy” behavior
- Nice guys don’t seem masculine or confident in women’s eyes
In life you rarely get what you don’t ask for. -Jerry Bruckner
Nice Guys Finish Last
Being passive is one of the biggest downfalls of the “nice guy”. Not only women, but people in general find it very boring if all you do is agree with them. Nice guys do this out of fear of upsetting the woman. Women may not agree with some of your opinions, they may even be upset, but they’ll respect you for it. That respect grows into a small admiration. Even when it comes to sexuality, nice guys are afraid of looking “not nice” if they display ANY sexuality around a woman. There’s nothing “not nice” about wanting her body. As long as she thinks it’s secondary to being interested in who she is because if she feels like you don’t give a shi’t about her and JUST want her body, she may be pissed. Unless she already wanted your body, but that’s a different situation The nice guy is constantly afraid of upsetting the woman and always finds himself doing everything to please her. He’ll drop his important responsibilities just to spend time with her when she’s bored. Remember that annoying kid in school that wanted to hang out with you all the time and never stopped nagging you? What did you want to do? Just turn the other direction and run as FAR away from him as possible, right? You probably considered him a needy, pathetic loser. Women feel the same about men with this behavior.
Being a Jerk Isn’t the Answer
While being a nice guy may get women to look down on you, being an abusive asshole will as well. I disagree that jerks get women. I believe that jerks may have SOME assertive qualities that attract women over nice guys, but in the long run, jerks have other negative qualities. Women (everyone actually) like a responsible, assertive person who has his own opinions and goals. Little things like flirting and joking about sex can go a long way into making you a potential lover instead of just a potential “friend.” Now there’s nothing wrong with that, that doesn’t make you a jerk, does it? Let’s be honest, EVERYONE wants sex from someone they’re attracted to. Women take cues from the men they’re with. If the “nice guy” is too scared to initiate anything due to fear of rejection, then it’s really not likely anything will happen. The real trick with women is to be playful, light hearted and have fun with them. Crack jokes, tease them and just have a good time. Show her a little bit of attention instead of focusing on yourself, but don’t take yourself for granted. If you just talk, and talk, and talk without knowing what you’re saying, you’re going to bore the girl you’re with. Don’t talk because you’re afraid of awkward silence, ask questions about obscure things in her life. Like where she got that scar or what made her choose the ring she’s wearing. There’s nothing “jerky” about that, but jerks aren’t afraid to offend girls, so they aren’t as reserved with their conversations and topics.