I always say “there’s no excuse for not being attractive”, or at least not trying to be as attractive as possible. Does that mean go out and get plastic surgery? Not plastic surgery, but maybe another form of surgery.
Attraction comes in two forms. Physical and mental attraction. There is a very important, but often neglected correlation of the two!
Physical attraction is how appealing your image is to a person. It doesn’t have to be sexual, but if you’re easy on the eye and well presented, it’s generally more attractive. If you aren’t matching, your clothing is wrinkled and your hair is messed up, then it will probably look less appealing to people.
Mental attraction is displaying behavior that almost forces respect out of everyone around you. Although confidence can be displayed and argued as physical, I will label it as mental. Simple things like speaking loud, clear and with detail can easily establish mental attraction.
Mental and physical attraction go hand in hand because people who are dedicated to being physically attractive, usually gain confidence from the complements and gestures relating to their appearance.
You don’t have to be tall or have a king Arthur-like jawline to be attractive. Clean, matching clothing, trimmed (or clean cut, depending on facial features) facial hair and clothes that fit. You don’t have to buy expensive clothing or shoes either. Plain color, fitting clothing is perfectly fine.Eating healthy and exercising can help tremendously too. There is no reason to settle for any less. Can you think of any?
The same goes for women. You don’t have to look like a catwalk model. Just take care of your hair, makeup and health. The idea is here to focus on things that you can change. If you sit there and cry about your height, it isn’t going to make you taller. Just move on and work on the things you can. Again, you have no reason not to. There’s no excuse!
When you find yourself as presentable as YOU can be, you’ll notice those magical things above begin to happen. For me, it all started with finding a facial hair style that worked well with my face, lost weight and bought some new, matching clothes. People began to complement me and that gave me confidence. With confidence, I started to be more assertive with my talking, gestures and attitude. I became more optimistic about society. They newly found confidence spiraled my life upwards and opened new doors of communication.
At this point, all of mentally and physically attractive traits I’ve acquired have become habits to me. Now I can’t see myself without them.
Why Being Attractive is so Important
When you go to a job interview, they will hire you based on how attractive you are. They are looking for a specific set of skills for the job. If you have those skills, you are generally more attractive to them than the next person. However, attraction doesn’t stop there.
Physically attractive people get paid more on average than unattractive people. It doesn’t mean that companies are prejudice assholes, because remember a lot of this is subconscious. Also, unattractive people are more likely to have unattractive personalities because they either don’t get complemented often or are flat out ignored. Worst of all, some of these people have to sit around and listen to others around them getting complements and none are coming towards them.
The other side of it is that people are generally happier when they see an attractive person who has a great smile, smells nice and is good at cracking a joke or two.
Being physically attractive accelerates being mentally attractive. You’re more likely to be engaged when you are physically attractive than when you aren’t. This can help you develop social skills quicker.
I was once in a temporary management position at my old job. I was helping out while the manager was on leave. I ended up having to interview a few people for a position and without even knowing it, I went with the most attractive person. Of course they both met the requirements to some degree, but the guy I picked displayed confident body language and was very well groomed.
The guy that I didn’t pick rode in on his bike with his school bag still on. His hair was in the process of being braided, so half was an afro. This subconsciously displays to my brains associative system that this person isn’t organized. I could be wrong, but again, that’s my subconscious talking, not me. We can’t blame others for something we could have prevented!
The argument that people “should” or “shouldn’t” be biased towards people because of their appearance doesn’t matter. What matters is to look at what is actually happening and choose the favoring side.
Maybe it’s “wrong” to favor attractive people and everyone should have an equal shot……..but that’s an opinion, reality shows otherwise. So we have the choice of getting with the program or suffering abuse from the system.