1. The people who don’t get it, don’t matter. It’s the people that do get it that matter.
Your values, your personality and your lifestyle will appeal to some people and offend others. The friends you hang out with happen to be those who you appeal to. Then there are people who aren’t your friends that you probably may not appeal to. Who cares? They’re not your friends anyway.
2. Expect that fact that a small minority of people will ALWAYS take things personally
My article about obese women referring to themselves as curvy is a perfect example. I had no intentions of pissing anyone off. The only problem was that it didn’t matter. There were women out there that took ANYTHING about the topic of women and obesity, put it together and called it an attack. People have an association system that works in their brain to associate people and things to events.
No matter what your intentions are, there will be some who have an association system that misinterprets the information
3. Striving for everyone to like you shows weakness and vulnerability
“Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity.” – Colin Powell
You have to ruffle some feathers to get your name out there. There are no top performers that EVERYONE loves. The fact that historically loved figures have been assassinated is proof enough. If you’re good enough at something, you’ll have some people who will respect and learn from you, and others who downright despise the fact that you falsify their lives.
Face it. Be bold, be confident and express yourselves.
4. The better you are at something, the more haters you will naturally have
“If you are really effective at what you do, 95% of the things said about you will be negative.” – Scott Boras
Just think about it. Anyone who’s on top has haters who think that the person is “boasting” or “showing off” or even “putting people down”. That’s because they’re insecure about their own lives. Envious of the person who has become relevant in the eyes of many.
Any legend, person, place or object, when enough time goes by will have a strong hate crowd and new theories as to why that legend wasn’t so great.
5. Fix your face
“If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.” – Epictetus
Being able to “fix your face” is a very important tool to have in this world. Fixing your face means doing a 180 on a subject that you’re not sure about. You must be completely honest with reality and express it publicly. Admitting you don’t know if the first step to knowing. Hiding the fact that you don’t and trying to guess haphazardly what the meaning of something is, is a bad habit.
Do yourself a favor and put the ego aside. The end justifies the means. If you look stupid doing it, who cares? Your friends? I doubt that. The people who aren’t your friends? Who gives a fuck about them? Do what you need to do to acquire a skill or learn what you need to learn at any (legal) means necessary. Do not EVER fear embarrassment.
The best way to beat haters
It’s as easy as “keep calm and carry on”. Seriously, it is. Block trouble makers on social media, completely ignore nasty remarks or messages and just live a better life. Nothing pisses off haters more than you not giving them any attention at all and just thriving under the apparent “pressure” they’re putting you under.
Keep your chin up, avoid negativity by limiting your channels of being exposed to it and just focus on impact, not approval.